This Week in The Family Business...
Is it possible that the happiest time of the year could also be the heaviest?
Every year, we hear stories of families that are struggling to handle the stress and pressure of the Christmas season - and we think it's part of our family business to help you find solutions.
To do that, we reached out to a new friend - Ryan Landau, a licensed mental health counselor who specializes in helping men manage their emotions. He joined our own Lauren Alessi, who is also a mental health counselor, and Steve Alessi to have an in-depth conversation about mental health during the holidays.
What’s Inside This Episode?
1. Recognizing Seasonal and Holiday Stress Steve Alessi points out that not everything you’re feeling is a sign that something’s “wrong.” The stress, the highs, and the lows are simply part of the season. Remember: This too shall pass. Recognize it, name it, and give yourself grace.
2. The Power of Slowing Down & Checking In According to Ryan Landau, both men and women slip into autopilot during busy times, often missing important signals from their minds and bodies. His advice? Pause. Reevaluate your priorities. Ask yourself: Why am I doing this? Is there another way?
3. Family, Loneliness, and Community Holidays can be especially tough for those feeling lonely—whether single or surrounded by family. Lauren Alessi reminds us that connection doesn’t just happen. Be intentional: Find your community, whether it’s your church, a fitness group, or hosting a game night.
4. Managing Money & Comparison Traps It’s easy to get swept up in spending and social comparison. Ryan Landau and Lauren Alessi suggest setting a budget, communicating openly, and focusing on what truly matters to your loved ones. More gifts don’t always mean more happiness.
5. Handling Family Drama Let’s face it—family dynamics can be complicated. Sometimes, the best gift you can give yourself is setting boundaries and being honest about who you spend your time with. If being around certain family members triggers old patterns or stress, it’s OK to be protective of your growth and peace.
6. Intentionality is Key Both of our experts agree: the secret sauce to a more joyful season is intentionality. Be aware of your feelings, make conscious decisions about community and spending, and don’t be afraid to create traditions that work for your family.
Parting Encouragement from the Alessis: Turn up the Christmas music, watch your favorite holiday movies, and choose joy—even if that just means making someone else’s holiday a little brighter. And remember, “What I give away, I get back in other areas.”
Quick Tips for the Season:
- Slow down and check in with yourself—mentally and physically.
- Make time for connection (even if you have to initiate it!).
- Set realistic budgets and talk openly about money with family.
- If you’re feeling lonely, reach out or start a new tradition.
- Be mindful about social media—sometimes, a digital detox is needed.
- Bring the fun! (Deck of cards, games, conversation starters.)
We hope this episode brings you comfort, clarity, and a few laughs. However you spend the season, know that you’re not alone—and we’re here for you every step of the way.
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